The Law of Awareness

You must know yourself to grow yourself

“No one can produce great things who is not thoroughly sincere in dealing with himself.” James Russell Lowell

There are only three kinds of people when it comes to having direction in life:

  1. People who don’t know what they would like to do
  2. People who know what they would like to do but don’t do it
  3. People who know what they would like to do and do it. These people are fulfilled

“Almost every man wastes part of his life in attempts to display qualities which he does not possess.” Samuel Johnson

I have researching these 2 questions and interviewing people in all walks of life. These questions seem to be simple at first. But one tries to answer them, one quickly discover that they are not easy. And yet we all, at one point in our lives, had the answer to these questions. Over time the memory of some people faded away as they spent time looking in the mirror with the hope they will see something else.

To appreciate the beauty of this creation and the place of humanity in it, one must answer these questions. To achieve our full potential, we must know and appreciate the power of the seed of greatness that we are born with.

Here are the questions: What is the purpose of life? What is your purpose in this life?

The Law of the Mirror

You must see value in yourself to add value to yourself.

“Being true to yourself and your values is a tremendous self-esteem builder. Every time you take action that builds your character, you become stronger as a person-the harder the task, the greater the character builder. You can actually “act yourself” into feeling good about yourself, because positive character expands into every area of your life, giving you confidence and positive feelings about everything you do.” JCM

Make Time To Grow

Which of the gaps discussed in the chapter have caused you to neglect growing the way you perhaps could have? See the PDF I attached last week.

Dr. John C. Maxwell stated

Most people underestimate the unimportance of nearly everything in their lives. They get distracted. As a result, they put growth on the back burner, and if they do grow, it happens accidentally instead of intentionally. Take a look at your calendar for the next twelve months. How much time have you specifically scheduled for personal growth? If you are like most people, your answer will be none. Or you may have planned to attend one event in the coming year. That’s not going to cut it.

May I strongly suggest that you rework your calendar so you have an appointment with yourself for personal growth every day, five days a week, fifty weeks a year. You may want to start with only 15 minutes a day. When people say they are so busy that they don’t have time to eat, no time to sleep, and no time to exercise. I wonder if they are not thinking and saying they don’t have to live.

Cultivating the Seeds of Greatness

Cultivating the Seeds of Greatness

 

Cultivating the Seeds of Greatness that Are Inside of You 

 Today is the Day to Start

     Wherever you are in life you can do more. You can be more. You can do a little better. You can even do a lot more. You don’t want to do more because you are greedy. You don’t want to do a lot more because you want to outdo your neighbors, your co-workers, or a family member. You want to do more and be better because you were born with the seeds of greatness inside of you. You need to do more and be better because your community and the world need more great people like you. You were given these seeds of greatness to bless lives and influence people. Why playing small when you are born to be great?

     I have a granddaughter who lives close to me with her parents. I love to watch her stepping her small feet into big adult shoes. The bigger the shoes are, the more excited she gets. She is only 15 months old. She puts one foot at a time and tries to walk in these big shoes. There are times she needs someone to lean on. She does not care that the shoes are too big. She is excited and find great joy in trying them. As I continue to watch her, I develop a greater appreciation for the opportunities to step into the big shoes of my life, knowing that I am here to grow, not to shrink.

     She knows very well that her feet are small. But she also knows that they are growing. She wants them to grow because she lives in a growth environment. She knows one day her feet will get bigger and she might as well step into that growing mode.

     Some of you may be thinking that that the growing years and moments are behind you. Some may be thinking that the seeds of greatness inside are too dormant. There is no way that they can be given life again. Let me assure you this is not true. I learned that fact from my mother. She was a woman who enjoyed life and embraced every growth opportunity. She was 90 years old when she was telling me and showing the work she was doing in her home in Haiti. She lived in a small village. She was beautifying her home including her yard.

     Just this week, I met a Haitian lady in Atlanta while visiting some relatives. She is approaching 90. If she did not tell me her age, I would have thought she was probably in her early eighties or late seventies. She is a vibrant person with a great mental capacity. Conversing with her was a treat and an uplifting experience for me. She is a happy person. She is very content. She is also a driven lady.

     Her husband passed away many years ago. She did not talk about loneliness. She did not complain about getting old. She shared how she is growing every day and improving her environment. She is very healthy. She takes good care of herself. She enjoys life and embraces every moment of it.

     Some of you may think that the environment you are in may not be conducive to your growth. While this may be partially true, you can still be intentional about your growth. Nelson Mandela was in jail for almost 30 years. He did not stop growing. He continued to grow in four major areas of his life.

      Spiritually: He took some times to meditate. You don’t need much space to do that. If              there is a breathing room, there is enough room for meditation.

      Intellectually: He asked that books and newspapers be brought to his cell.

      Emotionally: He forgave his captors and found ways to serve them. He treated them with        respect. He grew a little garden in the prison yard and shared the vegetables with the              guards so they could take them to their families.

      Physically: He jumped up and down so he could stay physically fit. The prison cells were        extremely small and did not offer much space above his head.

     Like a seed that begins the germination process from below the surface of the earth, all intentional growth starts from the inside out.

     I invite you to contemplate these 2 questions. What is growth to you? What is success? No one can answer these questions for you. If growth means having something you don’t have, what will happen after you get that thing? If success means getting a promotion in your job, or gaining some material possessions, or reaching a certain amount in your saving account, what will success be after you achieve these goals? Do you define success by climbing the corporate ladder (little ladder or a giant one)? If you do, what will success be after arriving at the very last step of the ladder? For every climb, there is a ‘sommet’.

     There is no end to growth. There is no end to challenges and failures in this life. We are sent here with a growth plan that includes successes, failures, headaches, trials, and setbacks. This growth plan has a vertical ax and a horizontal one. These axes are infinite. The vertical ax points toward heaven in one direction and toward earth in the other direction. The horizontal ax rotates around us and always points toward our fellowmen.

     You cannot dwell on yesterday for it is gone. Whatever happened in the past – great successes or major setbacks—happened to teach you a lesson. A lesson that you can use today to help you grow. A lesson that prepares and propels you for tomorrow. For tomorrow to come, you must endure and embrace today. There is only today. Today is the day to start being more intentional about your personal and professional growth plan. What are you doing today about your personal growth plan? 

Making the Transition to Intentional Growth

Here are four things you can do to make that transition:

1.     Ask the Big Questions:

Where do you want to go in life? Your vision

What direction do you want to go?

What is the farthest you can imagine going?

Answering these questions will get you started on the personal growth journey.

2.     Do It Now

Jennifer Reed wrote an article in Success and I quote,

Can there be a more insidious word? Later, as in “I’ll do it later.” Or, “Later, I’ll have time to write that book that’s been on my mind for the past five.” Or, “I know I need to straighten my finances…I will do it later.”

“Later is one those dream-killers, one of the countless obstacles we put up to derail our chances of success. The diet that starts “tomorrow,” the job hunt that happens “eventually,” the pursuit of the life dream that begins “someday” combine with other self-imposed roadblocks and lock us on autopilot.

Why do we do this to ourselves, anyway? Why don’t we take action now? Let us face it: The familiar is easy; the uncharted path is lined with uncertainties.

3.     Face the Fear Factor

Fear of failure – Fear of trading security for the unknown – Fear of being being overextended financially —- Fear of what others will say or think — Fear that success will alienate peers

4.     Change from Accidental to Intentional Growth

Eleanor Roosevelt states, “One’s philosophy is not expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes. In the long run, we shape our lives and shape ourselves.”

Where are you with the transition? Which of the four element that you need to work on (or you are working on)?  

 

The Law of Intentionality

You must be intentional about your personal and professional growth because growth doesn’t just happen. “People are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve themselves: they therefore remain bound.” James Allen

During our session this month, we discussed 8 growth gap traps. They are listed below. Which ones are holding back? What are you doing to remove these traps so you can be more intentional about your personal and professional growth?

  1. The
    Assumption Gap—-”I assume that I will automatically grow.”
  2. The
    knowledge Gap—-“I don’t know how to grow.” Designer, artist and consultant
    Loretta Staples says “If you are clear with what you want, the world responds
    with clarity.”
  3. The
    Timing Gap—-“It’s not the right time to begin
  4. The
    Mistake Gap—-“I am afraid of making mistakes.”
  5. The
    Perfection Gap—-“I have to find the best way.”
  6. The
    Inspiration Gap—- “I don’t feel like doing it.” The whole idea of motivation
    is a trap. Forget motivation. Just do it.
  7. The
    Comparison Gap—-“Others are better than I am.”
  8. The
    Expectation Gap—-“I thought it would be easier than this.”

Jim Rohn said, “You can’t change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight.”

Share any insights you got from participating in this session of Life Spark Mentoring or from reading the summary that I posted last week.